When did I become so damn mean?
I remember not so long ago when I was all nice and sweet. I would go out of my way to help people and I had tons of patience. That has all gone out the window!
A woman came in to my place of employment last week and wanted to put up a flyer of her daughter that was an advertisement for a child beauty pageant which is ridiculous enough. I wouldn’t have let her post it but she was talking to a co-worker who was nicer than me. I wanted to strangle her as she was going on and on about how these pageants build “confidence” and “character”. I remember rolling my eyes and thinking, it builds the child’s confidence or yours? How could you parade your little girl around like a prized Pomeranian?
Very seldom does a day go buy that I don’t mumble under my breath “what a freaking idiot”. Is the world full of idiots or am I becoming intolerant? I am a very happy person but it seems that I have totally lost my patience for stupid people.
A girl came in today that wanted an application for “whatever position we had open”. She just moved to town and felt that she was qualified for anything we had, I assume. Keep in mind, I work in an office environment, not Burger King. She had a piercing in her face and a some tattoos. I immediately thought, “freaking idiot”. I had to step back and try to channel that nice person who didn’t judge people by their tattoos, or appearance in general. It was difficult but I think I found her, if only briefly.
I will try to be nicer but I can’t wait until that damn pageant is over and the Pomeranian flyer is taken down. Freaking Idiot.
If you know you can vent, and reveal your judgmental side, here on the internet it can take some pressure off of you in the moment, when you are finding it hard to just let other people be themselves, without it changing how you are. As long as you remember that you are kind, a cool person to be around, and even tolerant, (and I mean tolerant, not ignorant.)
That being said, in the workplace, you must make evaluations and analysis. That doesn’t have anything to do with being judgmental and mean, at least it doesn’t have to. There needs to be a financial/business rationale behind each decision, but that doesn’t have to effect the way you carry yourself, your personality, tone of voice, sarcasm, etc.
That’s what having friends outside of work, and family, or even a blog is for; if you need it. If someone has decided they are going to JUDGE YOU solely based on the outcome of a decision you make at work, there is nothing you can do about it, except to make the best decision for you and your company – and feel sorry for their pathetic lack of values and shallowness.